Anonymous asked:

Do you have advice/ resources to help someone become more body pos/ confident when they have a different/ "abnormal" body type? Specific example is a male with larger than "normal" breasts? Trying to help someone in this situation and not sure how.

I’m going to just write this as an open letter to ANYONE feeling not “normal”, any one feeling not enough, anyone trying to help someone they love feeling this way. 

Well, I struggle everyday because I had a baby and my tummy is essentially a saggy bag now. It’s not easy. My first step was really telling my self that my tummy does not define my worth, I’m more than some saggy skin. There are good things about me that make some skin look like nothing. Even if I didn’t believe it all the time, I said it. I said it to myself often, I pretended to be cocky and confident about my body. Even though I was critiquing myself in my mind, saying it and pretending, make me feel better; and eventually I began to believe it! 

Make lists about what is good about you! You are a whole person! Like “DAMN my ass is looking on point today!”, “Man, these red lips are slaying today.” Positive affirmations push out negative delusional thoughts. (It’s a psychological FACT that we over criticize ourselves. Women who described themselves vs. a stranger describing themselves to a sketch artist produced drastically different results! Write notes to yourself, make your background a positive quote, but positive affirmations whereever you can! 

Get away negative body media! DON’T look at magazines that tell you what to look like! They don’t even look like that! Surround yourself with positive music, media, and people! 

Wear clothes that make you feel good! Fuck what other people feel about your dress, wear what makes YOU feel comfortable and happy. Always wanted to dye your hair…do that shit! Pierce your self…awesome! Get some ink…fuck yeah! DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY IN YOUR BODY. I like my hair red, my skin tatted and a monroe. It makes me feel beautiful. 

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Do something good for you, that will make you feel good. Drink water, fuck drink some hot coco. Take a nice hot bath. Do yoga, work out, pick up a hobby, fucking nap because it feels good! You’ll become amazed with what your body can do, if you push it. You’ll find things that you are good at, and like yourself for it! Volunteer, do things that make you…like you!  

Think really deeply about the things you say to yourself when you are feeling insecure, would you say these mean things to someone else? Think about a child feeling the way you do, what would you tell them? How would you console that person? Console yourself! You deserve to be treated better than you’d treat a stranger, so BE THAT PERSON YOU HELP. 

Now, before you do any of that, know that you/your friend/whomever are ALREADY on track to being body positive. You’re reading this, you want this, you’re trying because YOU KNOW that you deserve self love. Having the courage to ask and get better is the greatest act of self love. You’ll fall, fail, and have bad days, BUT you’re trying damn it, and that’s enough, YOU ARE ENOUGH. I love you for getting help, or helping someone. Good luck and stay positive. 

mha-dani asked:

Hi, I run a blog called mental-health-advice. We help with every mental health related issues like self harm, eating disorders or relationship, gender and sexuality issues. We created a live chat and have dozens of pages. It would really really mean the world to us if you could follow/post this for your followers, so we can help even more people. But, make sure that if you do follow, it is on mental-health-advice rather than this (my admin blog) Thanks in advance, Dani :)

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Tattoo Wishes

scarsandmusings:

I really want to get the BFRB ribbon tattooed on my foot once I have money but I feel like I wouldn’t be able to let it heal right… maybe I should wait till I can control myself a little better before I get it… Any derma sufferers have thoughts on this?

I’m about to get my first tattoo, and you just have me an idea for my next maybe! I’m putting my tattoo in a spot that isn’t a trigger for me. You’ll have to keep it lubricated so it doesn’t peel, because that will definitely be a trigger. Possibly even bandaging it until it’s fully healed. :) good luck!